The Cost of Self-Betrayal: Why Moving Forward is Important

What you can’t afford is to continue betraying yourself and become forever cemented where you are.

We often build our lives around the expectations of society, family, and friends. 

This in turn can stop us from doing what we feel we need to do. It can stop us from answering our calling, whatever that may be.

I had a dream in which someone told me, “Anyone who’s not on board, leave them at the boarding dock. You can write to them.”

It’s pretty apparent what that means. It’s time to get moving. Do not let the words or actions of other people that you love or care for deeply stop you from walking on your path. 

People will always have a say in what you feel, think, and do. Let them say, but make sure you continue to Do. In the end, it is not them who have to live this life, deal with the challenges, triggers, and face the difficulties of healing. It is you. 

Leave them at the boarding dock; you can always write to them. You can always reach out and speak to that person. 

It can be painful to leave people behind. Even if that relationship is just changing and not ending. It is a grieving time. It is a time that we avoid because it is not easy to get through. 

But what we can do is heal through the change of relationships. We collect our support community, like a therapist, healers, friends, family, and healing hobbies to get us through and gain knowledge. 

What you can’t afford is to continue betraying yourself and become forever cemented where you are.

In some ways, we have all betrayed ourselves. Not going on a trip, not taking the job, not being in that relationship, not leaving the relationship, not speaking up, etc. 

We all know the feeling of self-betrayal. It is a feeling that is important to remember so that we don’t continue to do it. 

You know how awful it feels to be let down, but it is agonizing when you are the one who has done it. Remember that feeling. 

You’ve probably told yourself, “Next time I’ll do this.” Sometimes, there are no more steps and waiting to feel “ready”. Sometimes, you just have to go. 

So when another opportunity comes, tell yourself, “This time is the next time.” Take action.